Boundaries are one of the most important things we can apply in our lives. They are how we state what is ok and what is not ok. After facilitating events and holding space for large groups of people for over a decade, I have learned the importance of group agreements. Without them, we would all be projecting our messy shit onto one another, and respectful relationships and reverence would not take place.
Have you ever attended an event and left feeling inadequate, confused, spacey or exhausted? Fuck knows I have! It is likely that the container of that event was not held with firm boundaries.
Just like we need both hands on a steering wheel to drive safely and straight, so does the facilitator to hold space for others. This helps to guide things in a forward momentum—this is how safe space is created.
This container, our private sanctuary, is a place for all members to feel safe, to feel seen and to feel heard without feeling regret. These same principles I ask you to apply these within your own life.
I am here to hold space and to unburden what has been weighing you down so you can feel love and support from a like-minded collective that nurtures and honours your journey thus far. Meet these agreements with reverence, honour them in all areas of your life, and see how your reality shifts.
Here is to uncovering the mystery within and without whilst having a fucking fabulous time doing so...
NO ADVICE GIVING
When you give advice, you unconsciously send the message that the other person doesn't have the resources to find the solution to their problem. Instead, listen deeply. If someone has asked for your help and suggestions on a matter, please only speak from experience using language such as, "I am sorry you are experiencing that and thank you for asking for support. When I experienced XYZ this helped me...".
NO GOSSIPING OR COMPLAINING
By gossiping and complaining, you deplete your power. You fall into a negative feedback loop of criticism and victimisation, instantly pushing your power further away. Should you wish to share an experience, simply state the facts of what happened without dwelling on the situation.
SEE THROUGH THE EYES OF EMPATHY
No matter how another person may behave or react towards you, begin to see the other person's reaction as a reflection of their own emotional maturity. How you react or behave reflects your level of emotional maturity. So instead of pointing the finger, find space in your heart to have empathy for another person. You don't have to love the person but in your mind, think, "how sad it is for them to be so angry" when we replace resentment with empathy, healing begins. The power of shame and guilt is removed and we remain Sovereign.
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